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Dizzying Heights of Moral High Grounds

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My absolute favourite dialogue from Schitt's Creek (which is also my most absolute favourite show) is when Moira Rose warns her husband, “ Be careful, John, lest you suffer vertigo from the dizzying heights of the moral ground .” I hear this dialogue and nod vigorously, every single time. Is it just me or has our need to take moral high grounds increased? There's a sudden pressure to take a stand on everything. God forbid, you are indifferent to something. Oh by the way, you don't just have to not be indifferent , you also have to share the exact same high ground with everyone with the exact same opinion. Logically speaking, I see two problems with this amazing situation we find ourselves in. First Problem:  The higher the moral ground you take, the higher the chances you will fall off it.  True for anything physical. True for anything philosophical. Case in point - Someone taking a stand and saying, I am always environmentally conscious, will find themselves in various s...
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Chaos, the good kind?

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In the spirit of writing without AI slop, I am typing this directly on the phone. No AI has been harmed.  ********************** I am not making any conclusions here, but this is a fact: 15 days since new baby came home. 15 days since my phone has charged a full 100% .  I know, correlation not causation and all that. But still. There is no time for anything any more. Every waking moment is with baby or 3 year old. If I am with baby, 3 year old is left out. If I am with 3 year old, I am not looking at baby and wracked with guilt. With first kid, you enjoy luxuries like sleep when the baby does. Now it is more like play with other kid when baby sleeps. When both of them sleep, be awake to feed the baby.  The poor phone goes for charging and is pulled out before it ever reaches 50%. Check something. Buy something. Engage kid 1.  In case you didn't get it, the phone is a metaphor. I am the phone. 15 days since I charged 100%. That's right.  As I type this, the phon...
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On Postpartum Vibes

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I promised I won't use any form of editing, hence typing this directly on the phone. No AI has been harmed in producing this piece. I hold some strange contrasting views on becoming a mother these days. Call it postpartum hormone induced clarity.  On the one hand, I have come to believe that what a woman's body goes through during pregnancy and delivery is just beyond insane. I don't think it can be or should be explained. On the rare occasions, I go to Instagram, I see all these posts directed at me telling me what happens to the body postpartum. Nothing comes close to the real deal. Just the whole precision with which the system works. Growing a new body from scratch, possibly a different blood group. The whole delivery process. The pain, the labour push, the whole few hours of this. Even if noone lifts a finger, in most cases, the baby will come out. Breastfeeding starting like on a clock in most cases. It's just madness if you think about it. And the best part is, e...
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To new beginnings and all that

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Another year to an end! It's been a happening year. I spent 9 out of 12 months pregnant. And now we have added Lego junior to our collection, as of 2 weeks ago.  Like they say, you have a second kid because you assume you understand parenting now. But they forget to mention you are not the same parent. You are now a twice over parent. The pressure of managing 2 kids, how your older kid will never look small again, just managing your time between both. It's like a mental tug of war.  A good one I guess. 2 weeks is too early to say that. But then again, the only thing I've understood about parenting is that predictions don't work.  The other thing that has taken over our lives this year is AI. I was an early adopter and now also quickly becoming an early critique, especially when it comes to writing. LinkedIn is now just AI slop. Same tone. Same structure of sentences. Same conclusions. Last night when I was thinking about updating this blog, it occurred to me this could ...
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Hah, the year end again!

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I cannot believe we are at year end again. (I can believe this is the first line of the post, as it is every year these last few years :D) A whole year went by again and I did not blog.  The good news is, I didn't expect to blog here this year at all. Low expectations keep me happy. I did keep writing every once in a while on LinkedIn, but to be honest, I still don't feel the flow I used to.  Back in the day, when blogging was king, around 2009-10, I remember, some of us used to post everyday. Some of comments are literally - firssssst. We would compete to be the first to comment on each others' posts. And now I see only dessert like blogs, with no new content.  I digress, though. I came, as always, to document what my year was like. 2024 has to be the fastest year. We started the year in Bangalore, just moving into a new house which we loved. By March, we were packing bags to move to Hyderabad. Usually there are lofty reasons for such moves - jobs, business etc. We moved...
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Anyone here?

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An year with zero posts. That has to be a new low for this blog! 👀 Literally. My last post was about 2022 year end.  In my defence, it has been an year.  In 2022, I became a Mom and thought that was overwhelming.  In 2023, I became a Working Mom and realised what overwhelming really means. I am not the first person to say this and definitely not the last - I don't know how Moms do it. All of it. I don't know how stay at home moms keep their sanity. I don't know how moms who go to office manage their guilt. I don't know how work from home moms balance. To be clear, I know its hard for Dads too. But I am going to talk about Moms just because I am one now. I am now a work-from-home Mom with an 18 month old baby. I am very lucky that my company is flexible. But that also means, there are no boundaries. I am working, sometimes with Lego on my feet. I am playing with him sometimes, while chatting with a colleague on Slack. My actual work happens only after I put him to sleep...
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